two simple words I'd love you to swap...
Hello you, I wonder if, like me, you're just too warm to do much right now?
So, today is a short letter with a very simple invitation…
I’d love it if you could change "sorry" to "thank-you" 🙏
And because you’ll want to know why (I don’t blame you!) I’ll tell you ;)
It’s this. Far too often I hear myself, and others, apologising for…
… taking up space and for showing emotion…
Neither of which are sorry-worthy, ever.
🤔 Maybe you learned that it’s not “lady-like” to take up too much space or airtime?
🤷♀️ Perhaps you’ve seen people rolling their eyes when tears appear, fussing, handing out tissues and generally trying to make it stop quickly?
Yep, me too.
I want to disrupt those stories, because you deserve your place at whatever table you’re sat at, and your emotions are real, valid, valuable and welcome!
(And actually holding back emotions stops you thinking well, so that’s a great reason to let tears flow… I have the BEST ideas after a good cry!)
Ok, so, here’s some swaps for you to try
Sorry for rambling on!Thank you for listening to me shareSo sorry I cried in that meeting, I can’t believe itThank you for letting me crySorry I was late getting hereThank you for waiting for meSorry I’m snappy when I’m stressed & hotThank you for being patient whilst I’m not feeling my best
Please email me back if you have a swap to share, or let me know which ones you try, and how it feels different. Bonus points if you find out how it feels different for the other person too :)
I’ll be back in your inbox soon, in the meantime, I want you to remember that you are incredible.
With love
Sarah xx
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