What if it goes wrong? (and why I like this question)
"What if it goes wrong?" is a REALLY good question to ask.
Chatting with a friend recently, she was telling me how negative she felt about a family decision.
Not the decision itself, but this; all her husband kept talking about was how brilliant it would be if they went ahead.
And he dismissed her question entirely.
"What if it goes wrong?" went unanswered. She felt like the doom-and-gloom part of the team, and she couldn't settle with the decision.
As humans we are biased towards negativity and we are wired to look for problems.
It’s kept us safe for a very long time, and being able to keep an eye out for trip hazards is definitely a useful feature.
And some of us have lived very safe lives where we get to stop looking for problems and only see the positive (this isn't me, and it might not be you either, but my friend's husband? yes, he's one of them)
However, "what if it goes wrong?" is only half of the conversation.
Hands up if you stop there, and get stuck in "it WILL go wrong"?
You're not alone.
So, back to my friend; here's what I asked her... "go on then, what it if DOES go wrong?"
With permission at last to explore this huge in-the-way question, she just... relaxed! All the things that could go wrong were... ok. Manageable. She'd looked it right in the eye and seen that the world would not end.
And then, and only then could she join in with "what if it goes well?"
The fun bit. The fizzy bit, where it gets really exciting, but where we don't always dare to go...
What are the opportunities? What could I win, or learn, or earn?!
In Gentle Goal Setting we'll be looking at how to use this WHOLE conversation to set goals that are right for you, that will motivate you, and leave you feeling focused and raring to go!
The workshop (£70) is tomorrow, Tuesday 7th, at 1pm. It's online (the call will be an hour, with a replay if you can’t make it live) and you can join in the chat, with or without your camera on.
See you there?
Sarah x
PS. If you're still wondering if this workshop is for you, come and chat with me on Voxer (voice-note & text app) to ask any questions at all.
Sarah Lynas | coach & mentor
Helping women shift self-doubt and be themselves at last.
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